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Julie Simone on the Dr Susan Block Show
I’m going to be interviewed on the Dr Susan Block show this Saturday July 31st. All the details are on her site, I’m going to be interviewed on the Dr Susan Block show along with RubberNecro Sat 7/31, details here : http://drsusanblockinstitute.com/
Julie Simone
After Care
One of the many reasons I prefer to session out of My Own space is the issue of aftercare. Aftercare doesn’t only relate to taking care of open cuts. For the record, marking only happens when it’s an agreed upon/consensual and is always discussed beforehand. In aftercare there is also a psychological element that one can’t put on a timer. After sessions it’s important for many to have the time to come down from their experience which depending on the play can be quite intense. I also like to chat for a few minutes to make sure the person’s head is in a good space when he leaves, sometimes play experiences can be triggers. That doesn’t mean one will be subjected to an uncomfortable, regimented question-answer period, it can easily be small talk on an unrelated matter. Having that time is something that is very important to Me. While I can be quite vicious with my actions, at the core I am a very nurturing person. I want the people I play with to feel safe, secure and accepted. A ticking clock with knocks on the door and people walking around in the halls can’t provide that atmosphere. It takes away from the personal touch of the experience, it cuts into the energy exchange and warmth.
Julie Simone
BindMe.nl – Hemp Rope Review
While in Europe last month I picked up a last minute teaching gig – a bondage workshop. The problem was I hadn’t packed my rope as I was supposed to be traveling with another Domme. She cancelled last minute thus I only had half as much gear with me as I would have had otherwise.
Enter BindMe.nl. I was in Paris shooting with Jerome from CaptiveCulture.com and he recommended BindMe‘s hemp rope. We got in contact and he sent me rope hand-delivered from the Netherlands to Hamburg, Germany. It was waiting for me at the front desk of the hotel in a pretty box with a piece of rope as a bow. Those little touches are things I notice and appreciate. Inside were bundles of rope of a vibrant deep red. Immediately I noticed the difference between this rope and the hemp rope I have gotten in the past. It didn’t smell as if it had just come off a goat’s back. The aroma was pleasant, almost as if it was lightly fragranced. It smelled clean, the rope was soft, there was not the constant shedding that I’ve come to associate with hemp rope.
I am used to buying my rope off a spool so I can cut it in the lengths that I want, but I went with the pre-cut versions this go-around. While it’s taking some getting used to, I got longer pieces than I am accustomed to using, I really love this rope. It holds the knot securely. I’m not constantly battling the crap that comes out of the rope when looking up and rigging a suspension. I also really like the width it comes in.
I’m not one who likes to order things on-line, especially when it comes to rope. I want to touch it, to feel in my hands so I can see exactly what I’m getting. I need to connect with My rope. Every time I’ve ordered rope on-line I’ve been disappointed. Usually what I’ve been sent was not what I wanted in thickness or quality. In this instance I have been exceptionally pleased with the level of quality and service.
I would highly recommend BindMe.nl to anyone looking for rope.
Julie Simone
Fantasy vs Reality – Public Scenes
I was recently booked for a kidnapping scene. We went over all the ins and outs of the scene. I purchased leather gloves at the client’s request. I booked another Domme to do the session with me, as I didn’t feel safe doing this type of scene by myself. He selected the meeting place in Orange County. I am not remotely familiar with the area. It was to be in the Honda Center parking lot. When we got there, the only people we saw walking around were wearing name tags. There were lights everywhere, security people, and I have no doubt, cameras. After sitting in the brightly lit parking lot and driving around to different spots for 20 minutes, We left. The client had refused to give a deposit and refused to give Me a phone number in the event that I couldn’t find him. He called a a bit later when we were grabbing a bite to eat and became abusive on the phone. I was already extremely uncomfortable doing the grab part of the scene. Who picks a brightly lit area in which to be kidnapped? He refused to select a more suitable location and became demanding. This wasn’t the first time in our phone conversations that he was difficult. He actually said at one point “You’d better answer Your phone when I call later” which is completely inappropriate. I let it slide but I see now that I really can’t let things like that slide because it sets a precedent and people think it is ok to speak to You that way. I wouldn’t let someone in my personal life speak to me like that, I certainly am not going to be spoken to that way by a client/submissive.
I understand that not all clients are submissives. I understand the difference between masochists, slaves, and fetishists. I don’t expect everyone I speak to to be submissive. I’m not a high protocol Domme. I do, however, expect to be treated with respect at all times. Once someone crosses that line, we are done. I am not obligated to take any session. I only play with people who are into things that I am into and who are respectful of my time and position. I have discovered with this experience that I am not comfortable with public scenes unless it’s at an appropriate venue such as a fetish club or play party. Another scene I was presented with recently was a public humiliation shopping scene. The client wanted me to involve the sales clerks by telling them how useless he was and why he had to buy me things. I don’t think it’s fair to involve non-willing participants in your kink. It’s a complete lack of respect for other people and a non-consensual scene that I can’t stand behind. Discretion is important to me, even if it isn’t to other people, notably the ones who want to do these scenes. I’m sure these people would feel quite differently if the scene was taking place in their neighborhood, in their office, in the shopping mall that their friends and colleagues go to. It’s incredibly selfish for them to expect Me to do something that they wouldn’t do themselves. So, the bottom line is, I do not do public scenes in places that are not geared for fetish scenes. Some things are better left to fantasy and mental masturbation.
Julie Simone
Outcalls/Extended Sessions
I have a new policy regarding outcall and extended sessions. I will no longer book either one without a deposit. This week I have had 2 extended/outcall sessions not go through. Both wasted a considerable amount of my time and I turned away other sessions with people that I have seen before and with whom I enjoyed playing.
I have read on forums that some people consider deposits to be a scam. While I can certainly understand this fear as well as the fear of having a paper trail, I cannot bend on this new policy. I am extremely busy, I travel quite a bit and run a production company. I am not someone who has extra time to waste.
There are ways to send a deposit that won’t have a paper trail – depositing cash into my bank account is the most ideal. I also have a paypal account.
Julie Simone
Orgasm Control
When I first started Domming I had a hard time with certain activities. I wasn’t properly trained. I knew how to use most of the implements, but I didn’t understand the psychology. Making films is completely different from doing one on one real time scenes with a connection.
The HeadMistress of the dungeon I started in couldn’t be bothered to do more than give a bitchy and unhelpful response that shattered what little confidence I had at the time. I was made to feel as if I should have known because the answer was so obvious. So I stopped asking her questions, I stumbled through sessions until I stopped doing them because I hated it. One of the things I especially hated at the time was when clients released at the end. I thought it was degrading. I didn’t feel remotely Dominant in those moments; I felt like an object, like a stripper.
Fast forward to now. After starting my own DVD line, I became more comfortable in the role of the Domme. I became a Domme, not just on film, but in reality. It was the role I identified with where before I was just acting (and I’m not a very good actress)
When I moved back to LA last August I made Domination my primary focus, I finally felt as if it was my calling. When I am Dominating someone, whether it be in session or while out at a club and doing something as simple as face slapping, ball kicking or choking, I feel alive in a way that I don’t otherwise. Lately I’ve been experimenting and expanding my interests. I’ve been thinking about things I enjoy in my regular sex life and finding ways to apply them to sessions with slight but necessary alterations.
I was in a session the other day where the sub had booked 2 hours but couldn’t take the requested activities for that long. I didn’t even think about what to do next, the scenario took on a life of its own. I made him stand up and get his cock hard for me. He was very shy and was humiliated by it. I made him take himself to the edge over and over and over again but didn’t let him orgasm, which is something I’ve done to lovers while giving a never-ending morning blowjob. Taking someone to the edge like that over and over again is hot. Getting to sit and watch and control someone’s every move, his cock, his orgasm without even laying a finger on that person is exhilarating.
I grabbed a strap on and made him follow along, varying my pace and technique and instructing him on what to do the entire time while making him look at me. I made him look into my eyes. I called him on it every time he would try to divert his attention. I made him tell me what he was thinking about while he was stroking his cock so I could use it against him and humiliate him with his own thoughts, with his own words. At one point I told him that when I finally let him cum it would either be the best orgasm of his life or he wouldn’t be able to cum at all. He was fine with taking that risk as he knew that it pleased Me to control him in this manner.
When I finally let him orgasm it wasn’t humiliating for me in any way. I was amused; I was happy. I didn’t at any time feel as if I wasn’t in control. I hadn’t lost my Dominance because that orgasm was Mine, it was exactly as I had ordered it.
Perspective changes everything.
Julie Simone
Booking a Session with Julie Simone
The Sessions information page is finally live!
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http://juliesbitchboys.com/blog/sessions/
Julie Simone
New Gallery -Glamour and Fetish Pics
I’ve added a new gallery of glamour and fetish photos including ones from my recent shoot with Peter Czernich of Marquis Magazine in Germany!!
Julie Simone
A Handy Lesson Trailer
This clip was inspired by all those porno websites that water down real BDSM by adding sex. Aside from their lack of technique, it gives clients a false idea of what a session entails. After watching this clip, I’m sure there will be no misunderstandings 🙂 The full scene will go live tomorrow at http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/3387
Julie Simone
New Gallery – A Cuckhold Wife’s Revenge
A new free gallery has been added – “A Cuckhold Wife’s Revenge”
http://juliesbitchboys.com/blog/galleries/
You can view the clip on my clips4sale store :
http://www.clips4sale.com/store/3387
-Julie Simone
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