non-consensual

Fantasy vs Reality – Public Scenes

I was recently booked for a kidnapping scene. We went over all the ins and outs of the scene. I purchased leather gloves at the client’s request. I booked another Domme to do the session with me, as I didn’t feel safe doing this type of scene by myself. He selected the meeting place in Orange County. I am not remotely familiar with the area. It was to be in the Honda Center parking lot. When we got there, the only people we saw walking around were wearing name tags. There were lights everywhere, security people, and I have no doubt, cameras. After sitting in the brightly lit parking lot and driving around to different spots for 20 minutes, We left. The client had refused to give a deposit and refused to give Me a phone number in the event that I couldn’t find him. He called a a bit later when we were grabbing a bite to eat and became abusive on the phone. I was already extremely uncomfortable doing the grab part of the scene. Who picks a brightly lit area in which to be kidnapped? He refused to select a more suitable location and became demanding. This wasn’t the first time in our phone conversations that he was difficult. He actually said at one point “You’d better answer Your phone when I call later” which is completely inappropriate. I let it slide but I see now that I really can’t let things like that slide because it sets a precedent and people think it is ok to speak to You that way. I wouldn’t let someone in my personal life speak to me like that, I certainly am not going to be spoken to that way by a client/submissive.

I understand that not all clients are submissives. I understand the difference between masochists, slaves, and fetishists. I don’t expect everyone I speak to to be submissive. I’m not a high protocol Domme. I do, however, expect to be treated with respect at all times. Once someone crosses that line, we are done. I am not obligated to take any session. I only play with people who are into things that I am into and who are respectful of my time and position. I have discovered with this experience that I am not comfortable with public scenes unless it’s at an appropriate venue such as a fetish club or play party. Another scene I was presented with recently was a public humiliation shopping scene. The client wanted me to involve the sales clerks by telling them how useless he was and why he had to buy me things. I don’t think it’s fair to involve non-willing participants in your kink. It’s a complete lack of respect for other people and a non-consensual scene that I can’t stand behind. Discretion is important to me, even if it isn’t to other people, notably the ones who want to do these scenes. I’m sure these people would feel quite differently if the scene was taking place in their neighborhood, in their office, in the shopping mall that their friends and colleagues go to. It’s incredibly selfish for them to expect Me to do something that they wouldn’t do themselves. So, the bottom line is, I do not do public scenes in places that are not geared for fetish scenes. Some things are better left to fantasy and mental masturbation.

Julie Simone

Tags: kidnapping scenes, non-consensual, public play, respect