Exclusivity & the Narrow-Mindedness of Fetishists

This article was inspired by some nasty comments I got on youtube recently though it’s something that’s been on my mind for a while. There’s one thing to offer a suggestion – hey, if you want to make more money, you should try it this way. It’s another thing to insist that they way someone enjoys their kink is wrong. I see this all the time and it really irritates me. It’s kind of like the spoofs on the goth culture – where people are on the fringe trying to be different yet in the end they all are conforming to the same dress, lifestyle, etc and have to conform in order to be included. Why do I have to dress a certain way to get into a fetish club? Am I any less into what I do if I’m wearing jeans and a wifebeater? According to Bar Sinister in Los Angeles, yes I am and i need to be penalized by paying extra money. Me, Julie Simone. If I had been someone else I probably wouldn’t have even been let in.

I teach rope bondage classes and I tell my classes that what I am saying is merely a suggestion and what I’ve found works for me. I like hemp. If you like tying people with shoelaces, have at it! People shouldn’t get so hung up on rules. Yes, you should know where the nerves are so you can have all the information for your scene, but it’s not essential to not hit a nerve; one should just know with what they’re dealing. Hand & foot bondage is nearly impossible to do without tying on a nerve, that’s part of what makes it so intense (and amazing).

So, just because someone likes to do an activity differently than you do doesn’t mean they’re wrong. There are safety things, sure, but to tell me that the way I like to smoke is wrong is ridiculous. It’s a huge fetish of mine, I like it the way I like it. Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean it’s wrong, it’s just different. Some people like deep inhales. I have asthma, I can’t do deep inhales. I like the oral fixation of it, playing with the smoke, watching it, getting really close to someone and letting the smoke curl into the other person’s mouth, kissing with smoke in your mouth, smoky blowjobs, using it in breathplay which can be quite intense and sadistic. It’s all mouth related and very visual for me, you can’t see the smoke when it’s in someone’s lungs….

So, if you like what I like, AWESOME. If you don’t, that’s fine too. Variety is the spice of life.

Julie Simone

http://www.SmokingTV.com

Tags: rope bondage, Smoking fetish